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08 July 2021
Hani Henry, associate professor of psychology at AUC's Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology, says that Robert Sternberg’s psychological theory addresses the most common reasons we fall in love, which are: passion, intimacy, and commitment.
status on attitude is possible to fall in love for intimate reasons, but it does not require commitment or passion. Henry stated that intimacy is more than just a close connection with someone. It can also be used to enhance self-esteem. "Sometimes it's self-serving. Everyone needs to feel loved, cared for, and respected. Women desire to feel their femininity and men desire to feel their masculinity.
The song Hello by Adele is a great example of intimacy. Adele calls her ex-boyfriend in the chorus and vents her pain about the relationship. She admits that it has been many years since she last saw her ex-boyfriend and that she has not done any healing. "Her lyrics are magic and speak for many people who want an emotional connection with anyone, or even a short-term romance," he stated.
Normal to fall in love out of desire or strong feelings is normal. Passionate love is developed as a result of feelings that lead to sexual attraction, physical interest and romance. Henry said, "When you find someone you like, it is because you are attracted by something that makes you feel that way." "The attraction to someone is physical and there is a fascination about the hair and eyes as well as their bodies."
In the absence of intimacy and commitment, infatuation is developed with the person you love. "People are drawn and quickly develop lust. Some people become obsessed with a person and view them as an object. You can be with someone for years and don't feel there is commonality between you and that person," he said.
Total love comes from commitment. He stated that those who are committed want stability and a healthy partner. hindi status who are only looking for commitment might lack basic friendship interests and sexual attraction."
According to Henry, in modern times, young adults are interested in objects more than relationships. "The objectification comes from consumerism," he explained. The more consumerist a culture is, the less people are interested in making commitments. Some youth are more focused on impressing people than they care about. So everything needs to be consumed, even relationships with people."
Love Outside the Triangular Theory
Sternberg's love theory is universally applicable. However, everyone has their own reasons for falling in love. "Your reason for falling in love doesn't necessarily need to be explained by science. Henry explained that certain personal needs may include fear of being alone, social pressure, satisfaction, or religious beliefs.
No matter what psychology says about love, our choice of type of love defines who we are. Each of us has our own ways of understanding what makes our lives happy and meets our human needs. "Some people have a need that fulfills all three dimensions of the triangle, and they don't want to give up on any of them because they feel they are being deprived of another dimension. Love is very complex."