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ABOUT THE AUTHOR - Rather, I find that my clients want clarification as to what exactly is separation for purposes of a divorce in North Carolina and how does it affect their love life. The person might still be living with their soon-to-be ex.
When my second wife and I first separated, about 8 years into our marriage, I dated a gal for several months. It had started out as a simple, pre-existing friendship, we had similar interests and similar hobbies, the whole nine yards, and we started hanging out together. She knew my situation, as I told her exactly what was going on. Nevertheless, one night after a road trip to Mall of America her idea, dinner, and a bit of drinking we ended up having sex. After that she ran with it, getting it set in her mind that I would get divorced and she and I would be together forever. I didn't encourage or discourage such thinking because I didn't want her to go away, but I wasn't free to make definitive future plans with her either. Before long my wife's daughter, who freaked when the serious divorce talk began a month or two later, insisted on mediating between my wife and me in an attempt to prevent us from divorcing. At the point where we agreed to give it another try, of course, I had to break it off with the other woman. She did not take it well at all, and didn't want to let go. It left me in a very awkward and uncomfortable position given the fact that we had friends in common outside the context of the relationship. It was in California that the whole thing completely fell apart and we divorced. Amazingly, I am still friends with my second ex-wife and with the woman I had dated during our separation. It was difficult to regain these friendships out of the ashes of broken relationships, but that's what eventually happened. However, they are not friendly with each other even to this day. The point here, I think, is that right or wrong is subjective. Only you can decide what is right or wrong for yourself given your situation. However, dating while separated but not divorced is ripe with potential risks. Even when you think you are doing the right thing by clearing it with your wife and fully informing the other woman, it can easily lead to a very awkward and uncomfortable situation for everyone involved. He stayed married to his wife, even though they separated more than 20 years ago and live in separate states. He told me himself that he stayed married because his wife needed his medical insurance and he did not want her to go without it. He has had a girlfriend for much of that time whom he cherishes. He has always planned his retirement around his life with the girlfriend. He recently had a serious medical situation that I honestly believed would lead to his death. It was very awkward for our company manager talking to his adult kids about medical leave processes, etc. There are definitely downsides to being legally married, especially when something goes wrong medically or results in death. The wife, who had not been a part of his life for many many years, is now in control of every aspect of his life. Well, me and Mr. Robinson live 180 miles apart, for fifteen years now. What do you mean, going through seperation? Have you filed for legal seperation? If you have, I would recommend that you do not date as to not give Mrs. Robinson a reason to file for divorce under grounds of infedelity. Also, each state has different definitions about reasons for divorce. I have been seperated for over 7 years. We still communicate on occasion but it's almost always about our daughter in college. Neither of us wants to get back together, nor are we interested in getting married again, and lawyers are soooo expensive. For all intents and purposes, we are both single. I'm dating and have no qualms about it, nor do the people I'm dating. Society and our culture tell us we need to get divorced before venturing out. But keep in mind that is the same society and culture that says god is real and the bible is fact. Before you start to date some else else you need to get clousure with your wife, five years ago I was in a relationship with a woman who was still married but seperated from her husband. So as much as my heart wanted to be with her. I realized that a person can't love and be with 2 differnt people at the same time. It's not wrong to want to date but please consider the person you are dating. I have on two occasions in my life dated men who were separated, divorce papers were filed and the men both were adamant that there was no going back.... Both ended up back with their wives, one of the men is still married 20 years later. The other gentleman tried real hard to make it work but finally divorced five years after we quit dating. The bottom line, I developed strong feelings for both of these men as we had dated for a year and had hopes of a long future together. I refuse to ever go down that road again.... My ex is seeing someone else, separated not divorced. He wants a divorce, which I'm fine with but he got very uptight when I said he if wanted to divorce I would site adultery. So in essence he's paying. If the relationship is over its over. Be honest about it and don't expect to have your cake and eat it! I was separated-and-not-divorced for a couple decades. I lived in another state and he and I had zero desire to reconcile. I met a man that I came very close to marrying. He asked me at one point how much my truck was worth. He is not only a pitiful alcoholic and chronically unemployed, but he's also not the brightest bulb. In all of those years I was seperated I carried on with my life raising our son sans child support , working, building a career, paying the bills, and I never thought of him much. Accept when asked about my marital status. I confess, I would lie since emotionally I was completely divorced from the man. It came to a head when I met the man I almost married. I'm glad I didn't marry the new guy. And I'm also glad I met him. Our relationship prompted me to get a long over-due divorce, and I breathe better for it. First off, wow just wow. I want to thank everyone for the advice,kind words and tough love, in some cases. To be clear, I have not started dating as I am going for a reconciliation. So instead of feeling down about it, I will do some self improvement and work on some things that was hurting my marriage. I'm pretty sure there is more than just goes 5 but that's all I can think of at the moment. If you expect to get back together, I would say no. In my case, my ex and I were separated for a year and a half before pulling the divorce, but I knew the day I moved out there'd be no going back, so that was OK, although it could be a chore convincing your date that it's over with the ex.
Legally, there is no servile significance to merely dating, if that's all it truly is. Ladies, you can do it by yourself in difficult times. Jackie Pilossoph is the author of the blog. Consider telling potential dates your true marital status. These tips can help turn your bridal bling into money. I for to read, I like to write; I like to think, I like to dream; I like to talk, I like to listen.